When you are a birth worker, these words are magical, not as much when there is a history of fast deliveries. Ranel birthed her first two babies in record time, we anticipated a 3rd fast delivery. The Dreyer family waited 9 months and a little bit, for this day! (This is the day the Lord has made. We will rejoice and be glad in it.” Psalm 118:24)
Heather (the midwife) was just in time, I however, missed this beautiful girls birth by seconds.
I was welcomed by a dad that was a little flustered, two wide eyed smiling brothers and “tannie Elanie”. They were all mesmerized by what just happened. The atmosphere was loaded with excitement, pretty pink balloons and a beautiful drawing. A drawing of lilies with the meaning of her name, by her mom to help welcome little Lilly-Su.
Lilly: elegant flower, innocence, purity, beauty, humility…Su: gracious Lilly ….Janel: God is gracious.
Ranel was holding her against her breast Johann was wiping tears of gratefulness from his eyes, touching and talking to his perfect little girl, while the two now big brothers was pouring warm water over their brand new baby sister to keep her warm. Priceless moments. Ranel held Lilly-Su ever so gently to float on her back, while Johann cut the umbilical cord, a home birth like they wanted.
A water birth like they imagined, in these moments every prayer were answered and every sacrifice worth it.
I enjoyed listening to the tales of Johann and the boys running up and down to fill the birth bath with water. How they couldn’t get that perfect temperature and had to through ice in to cool down the water. How relieved everyone was when Heather arrived. Just in time to get Ranel into the birthing pool and Lilly-Su safely in her mom’s waiting arms. I loved Lilly-Su’s first birthday party, complete with cupcakes and her family singing happy birthday. Truly a day to rejoice and be glad in.
I missed my very first birth. It saddened me a little bit, but I knew all was well and exactly as it should be because Lilly-Su was fashioned for greatness!
The birth of your baby is one of the most life changing, pivotal days in your life. Definitely filled with moments to remember forever. Definitely worth getting a photographer for, specifically for that “moment of birth”. Right?
Wrong!!! Yes, you want a birth photographer at your baby’s birth, but to get permission from some hospitals and doctors allowing your photographer access can be a nightmare. I often get the question from prospective clients about access at hospitals, and I have to admit, I love capturing the whole thing but it’s not a deal breaker. There is so much more to your baby’s birth story than the actual moment of birth.
Here is Samantha’s birth story, we knew from the start that I wouldn’t be allowed in theatre. Normally I wouldn’t post the images the dad or staff captured on my website, because it’s not my work, but I decided to show you what is possible, even though I was not in theatre…..
I think we pretty much still “GOT” the birth 😉
Here is her birth video, you decide …..
A note from Michelle to her daughter Samantha;
“My liefste Samantha
Jy is al twee maande oud ! Dit voel nogsteeds onwerklik dat jy nou elke dag deel is van ons lewe!! Elke dag is net n blessing!
Jou geboorte storie :
Jou oorspronklike geboorte datum was die 10de aug, maar dr.laker het besluit om jou vroeer uit te haal omdat jy nie gegroei het soos jy moes nie. Ek is toe al die maandag hospitaal toe sodat hulle vir my steriods en magnesium kan inspuit om seker te maak jy is mooi gesond. Die drie dae voordat jy gekom het,het maar vir my baie lank gevoel en ek kon nie wag vir donderdag nie!!
Donderdag het finally aan gebreek! Pappa was al vroeg die oggend daar en ons het saam gewag in opwinding! Dit was die langste paar ure ooit!! Finally was dit ons beurt!
1uur was ek in die teater in. Ek was maar bietjie bang omdat alles so nuut was. Maar ekt geweet Liewe Jesus is by ons en dat alles perfek sal wees! Die nakootiseer het die spinaal gedoen, die inspuiting was bietjie seer, maar dit was glad nie so erg nie. Daarna moes ek gaan le en hulle het my begin prep. Die dokter het in gekom, toe was ek bang ek is nie heeltemal dood gespuit nie en dat as sy sny gaan ek dit voel, maar die volgende oomblik toe kyk sy vir my en se “knyp knyp” , ekt na haar gestaar en gese “huh?” , toe haal sy n knyp tangetjie uit en se “ekt jou geknyp, het jy dit gevoel?”
Dankie tog ek het nie. Die dokters het gesels oor hulle vakansies en langnaweke terwyl ek en pappa baie anxious wag. 10min later (13:13) is jy gebore.
Wow wat n asemrowende gevoel! Die pediater, dr.angela colquhoun het vir ons die fotos geneem, sy het net aanhou se “aah, sy is so mooi!” ! Ek kon jou net so vinnig oor die lap sien, toe het die dokter jou gevat en pappa het langs jou gestaan en jou bekyk. Later op die fotos was dit vir my so special om te sien hoe hy saggies, met liefde aan jou koppie vat. Hy het toe jou umbilical cord gesny en hulle het jou bietjie in die broei kas gesit om warm te word. Na so 5min het hulle jou bo op my kom sit en ek kon bietjie na jou kyk. Die nakootiseer het toe n medisyne gespuit wat maak dat my baarmoeder weer terug trek, dit het my bietjie duislig gemaak. Ek was toe bang jy val van my af omdat ek jou nie meer so mooi kon vashou nie, die suster het jou toe weer in die broei kas gesit. Pappa het langs my gesit en my hand vashou en my verseker alles is oky.
Toe hulle my klaar toe gewerk het het ek vir so 10min in die recovery saal gele, jy en pappa was nog saam met my, pappa het jou vas ghou. Toe het hulle my saal toe gestoot en jy en pappa is na die baba kamer. Hulle het my gou kom was. Daarna het jy en pappa weer terug gekom en jy het so bietjie gevoed, wat amazing en special was, en ons het lekker skin to skin gedoen terwyl Sam (ja ook Sam, how cool!) vir ons stunning fotos geneem het.
Ouma tutti en oupa charles was eerste by ons. Dit was vir hulle so lekker om jou te ontmoet, en ek is so bly hulle kon hier wees. Oupa sam , ouma lorraine en jou ouma grootjie ella het toe ingekom. Hulle was so bewoe. Ons het toe ook vir die eerste keer vir ouma lorraine gese dat jou tweede naam raine gaan wees . Sy was heeltemal onkant gevang en so surprised. Dit was so special.
Daarna het ek so bietjie gerus en pappa het gou gery om boris en linka te voer. Maar hy was gou gou weer terug, haha. Jy het heeltemal jou pa se hart gesteel!!! Ekt so bietjie pyn gehad en vir die susters gevra vir iets. So, daai ietsie het my heeltemal deurmekaar gemaak, en die res van die dag is bietjie n blur, maar
Ouma lorraine, oupa sam, ouma ella, oom louis, oom stephen, tannie carien en tannie vicky het die aand kom kuier. Oom louis was heeltemal in awe met jou! Oom stephen was sommer afgeskrik omdat jy so klein was, hehe (nou dat jy bietjie grooter is, 2 maande, hou hy jou baie lekker vas) hulle het nie lank gebly nie omdat ek nie heeltemal by was nie, maar pappa het tot laat gebly en jou vas gehou terwyl mamma op haar trip was 😉
Die volgende dag het ek baie beter gevoel. Ekt vir die suster gevra om die kateter uit te haal sodat ek kan gaan stort. Die stort was maar bietjie moeilik, ek was maar seer. Note to future daughter – drink eers n pyn pil voordat jy gaan stort! Tannie jenny, vicky en lene het ook vir jou kom kuier vandag. (Oom ruan, danie en tannie karen het die saterdag vir jou kom kuier. Asook oom wynand)
Die vrydag aand in die hospitaal kon ek jou nog in die baba kamer gaan los dan sou hulle jou elke 3 ure bring om te voed. Ekt jou die aand gevat. Oh, by the way, daar was 9 babas gebore op die 3de aug 2017 in kloof hospitaal!!!! So… Toe ek jou vat toe is al 8 al opgeline en ekt jou in die que gesit, my hart het alklaar gebreuk! 2 ure later , (nadat ek vir 2 ure luister na verskillende babas wat nou en dan huil ) het ek besluit, nee wat ek gaan my baba haal!! Haha ekt jou gaan haal en jy het die hele aand op my bors geslaap, selfde met die volgende paar aande in die hospitaal! Dit was so lekker en ekt geweet jy is veilig en gelukkig.
Die volgende paar dae im die hospitaal het maar vinnig verby gegaan en ek kon nie wag vir sondag om huis toe te gaan nie!!
Sondag was ons so 12uur by die huis. Al jou oumas en oupas was daar asook oom louis, oom stephen en tannie carien. Ons het almal lekker middag ete saam geeet en toe het almal gery en dit was net ons. Dit was so lekker om jou finally by die huis te he!!
Die eerste drie weke was pappa hier, en wow , dit was vreeslik lekker om saam as n gesin net deur elke dag te gaan en mekaar lief te he, en elke nou en dan vir jou te staar 😉 pappa het n nuwe favourite gekry, jy was instantly sy oogappel! Hy is regtig my mr.perfect! Hy help met ALLES! En nie omdat hy moet nie, omdat hy wil. As jy n geluid maak is pappa daar! As ek net dink dis tyd om jou doek te ruil is hy daar! Ek en pappa het actually gefight vir beurte om jou doek te ruil hahaha!!
Pappa was baie hartseer om weer terug te gaan DRC toe! Maar vandat pappa daar is video call ons elke aand, en oggend oor naweke! Jy kyk aandagtig na die skerm.
Vandar jy begin smile het op 6 weke het jy sommer baie hom gesmile. Toe jy 7 weke oud is die saterdag oggend toe pappa bel het jy die hele tyd vir hom gesmile!! Dit was so special, little daddy’s girl! Voor dit het jy maar net nou en dan vir my en oupa en ouma gesmile. Maar nie so baie na mekaar nie! Dit was regtig ongelooflik om te sien! En van daar af het jy altyd baie gesmile as hy met jou gesels.
Pappa kom nou weer oor 11 slaapies en ons kan seriously nie meer wag nie!!!
Ons lewe is soooo geseen met jou in dit xxx
Oh ja, nog n ding , ek neem te lekker fotos van jou! Oom louis het gejoke en gese eendag as jy groot is en jy vra vir al jou baba fotos , dan gaan ek se, ja hier is al die 12 000 baba fotos my kind, haha
Maar ek dink actually dit gaan meer as dit wees, haha
“A mother might give birth to a child but before that a child gives birth to a mother. “- Unknown.
Waiting on God to fulfil your desire to have a baby is one of the hardest things to do, I know, I’ve been there. When I met with Juanita to go over their birth plan and I realised she has also walked the road of waiting and praying, I was so honoured to be a part of their journey, being able to capture a small part of their testimony.
Juanita, I’m so glad you had the courage to share your story with others, not only by allowing me to share your images, but also in this heartfelt letter to your daughter.I know this will give hope to many and Karli will be touching people everywhere she goes …
“Karli… we waited for you. It felt like forever. We prayed, we waited, I cried, sometimes I got angry, other times we would just know… that one day you would be ours.
You sure took your time! I loved carrying you inside me, where I could protect you and where I knew you would be safe! But I also had the anticipation, like a little child waiting for her Birthday present. The doctor said that you would be here around the 25th of November. And we waited some more… 12 more days! Everyone was tired of waiting and everyone waiting for the phone to ring.
The morning you decided to change our lives, was the longest and the shortest 9 hours of my life! Daddy slept, well, like a baby. Mommy started contractions at around 3 on a Wednesday morning. Unsure of what it was, yet knowing you are on your way, I started getting ready to meet you! I messaged Sam, telling her I think its time, bearing in mind I told her this 2 weeks ago as well and we ended up waiting longer! I showered, I did my hair, I put some make-up on (because a girl can conquer the highest mountain with a little lipstick!) And at 6 that morning, I made daddy his coffee. Sam stayed in contact with me the entire time, wanting to meet me at the hospital. I was in denial of what was happening and telling her to stay put for now.
I had an appointment to see the dr at 10, but I knew I wasn’t going to make it! Daddy took me to the dr to check things out.. And then hearing those words I didn’t want to hear:
“You are now only 3 cm dilated, we are admitting you and will do induction if baby’s not here by tonight”! I cried…
I was scared and I knew the odds of me having a natural birth after getting induced was not good. I prayed and begged for God to step in and take over.
So off to the hospital we went, me sobbing and daddy stressing. Then, out of the blue…. two terrible cramps. In hospital I got checked again. Why I asked. Dr checked me 5 min ago. I’m 3cm dilated… No, you’re 4cm’s! Luckily Sam trusted her instincts and had just parked her car when daddy had phoned her to come. By the time your daddy got back from fetching our medical file, about 20min later, I was in active labour. 8cm dilated!
It happened so fast. There was no time for any pain medication. Just the way I wanted it. They wanted me to stop pushing, but I did not know how! I didn’t want to push, scared of what I know was coming, but at the same time yearning to meet you. And so I pushed. With every contraction, with every ounce of pain, I knew I was getting closer to holding you in my arms. Daddy was holding my hand, leaning over every now and again, to check on you. Then they saw it! Red hair! A lot of red hair. Before I could get around to the idea of you having red hair, you were laying in front of me. Pale like the hospital sheets with shocking red hair. You were the most beautiful human being I had ever laid eyes on.
And with you in my arms, 8 years of tears and heartache, turned into the sweetest reward I could have ever dreamt of.
You have taught me patience. To wait on God. Because His timing is perfect, and now I have found my favourite human <3
Oh the adventures you will have. The grazed knees, sticky hands from eating ice cream on the beach and giggles while flying kites with daddy. And falling asleep after chasing butterflies in the garden. All these things await you.
I cannot wait for you to live life my little precious Karli. While you sleep in my arms it feels as if time melts away. 8 years feels like a fleeting moment. You where worth the wait, more than worth the wait. Never have I thought that this thing they call motherhood is such a sweet experience. No words can explain this feeling.
Everyone warned “You will never sleep a full six hours again, good luck, dirty nappies and screaming baby is now your new normal”. But no one warned me that I will never feel the same again, no one warned me that before I met you, I was walking around half a human! No one warned me about this feeling. The feeling that your heart is now living outside your ribcage! No one warned me – a tiny little human being can stir so much love in you!
I must have done something terribly right! God created you so perfectly. From your ruby red hair, to your milky white skin. Ten toes, ten fingers and a button nose, every inch of you was created perfectly. I know you are the apple of His eye! And I know you will do great things!
Love your Mom”
“A mother might give birth to a child but before that a child gives birth to a mother.” – Unknown.
“Even the sun directs our gaze away from itself and to the life illumined by it” – Eberhard Arnold
I always struggle a little bit when I write a blog post as I’m much better at telling stories with my camera than I am with my pen. Marthelie’s christening was no different.
A christening to me is one of those very personal happenings in a persons life. The little child’s life as well as the parents. It’s intimate, it’s sacred and not really something that I am able to describe in words. What I can however put in words is Matthew 5:16.
“16 In the same way, let your light shine before others, that they may see your good deeds and glorify your Father in heaven.”
I found the beautiful words of a song from Lauren Daigle – “Salt & Light” that is based on
Oh the beauty of the King You make righteous those who seek You have written and redeemed my story
Let my eyes see Your kingdom shine all around Let my heart overflow with passion for Your name Let my life be a song, revealing who You are For You are salt and light
Oh the love that set me free You bring hope to those in need You have written and redeemed my story
Let my eyes see Your kingdom shine all around Let my heart overflow with passion for Your name Let my life be a song, revealing who You are
For You are salt and light You are love’s great height You are deep and wide A consuming fire
You are salt and light
You are love’s great height
You are deep and wide
A consuming fire
Let my eyes see Your kingdom shine all around
Let my heart overflow with passion for Your name
Let my life be a song, revealing who You are
For You are salt and light
You are salt and light
For You are salt and light
For You are salt and light
“Life reveals her beauty one precious miracle at a time”. – Flavia
I loved dressing my kids when they still allowed me, my style for them was a perfect mix of bohemian chic and preppy cute. They fitted right in with this vision I had of what my life as a mom would look like. It involved a home straight out of a design magazine, with hip furnishings and educational toys. Long walks on beaches and picnics under oak trees…. Pinterest Perfect!
AND THEN MY PERFECT LITTLE MONSTERS STARTED COMUNICATING IN THEIR OWN “AWSOME” WAY!
As it turns out, they have their own opinions on everything, from clothing to food to home décor. My children seem to be instinctively drawn to mismatched clothing and clashing prints. Unfortunately for me, their fashion taste rarely meshes with mine….
As perfectly imperfect as it may sound, I had to surrender my vision of what my life as a mom would look like. Not only do my home rarely look anything like the interiors from a design magazine but very rarely do we have the perfect picnic and long strolls on the beach. It’s often much more like a scene from a Disney cartoon with me trying to get the girls down from branches in that perfect oak tree or running after them into the ocean. So surrendering my choice of clothing for them was one of the easier ones, but that also means that if they want to wear rain boots with fairy wings and swimming costumes then we go with it.
This specific day it my youngest decided on leggings and her swimming costume….. I was both horrified and cracking up about this perfectly mismatched outfit!
How do you manage clothing battles with your kids?
[quote]”From the moment they placed you in my arms, you snuggled right into my heart.”- Unknown[/quote]
I was just about to go to bed when my phone rang and as I saw the caller Id, I knew that this beautiful little girl was about to make her debut 2 weeks earlier than we expected.
I met a very excited big sister in the corridor at 23:40 in the evening at Kloof Medi Clinic, the excitement was much to big for her little heart to go to bed with ouma and oupa! So she waited to meet this little baby her parents told her all about. Ilané.
After a few words and a few pictures with mom and dad, I was unfortunately not allowed in theatre, I joined the excitement and anticipation in waiting for Ilané.
I’m a big sweet tooth and stole some of my babies Easter eggs on my way to hospital, just for a snack, you know. So big sister Milandri and I had a midnight feast eating Easter eggs and celebrating this brand new baby sister about to make her debut! (I just have to add I had permission from Ouma to give her chocolates at midnight, so Leandi you need to fight this with your mom 🙂 )
The first time these sister met was so amazing to see and be able to capture, big sister Milandri was a little unsure as I don’t think the baby she had in mind and little Ilané looked much a like 😉 but I have to tell you that these girls were friends by the time they left the hospital…..
Leandi and Kobus enjoy your beautiful girls, and always stay as involved as you are in each other and your family! You guys warmed my heart, I loved witnessing how good Kobus are with all of his girls and how in love Leandi is with her family!
If you missed the birth slide show (which is amazing by the way) here is a link
[quote]”Blondes are wild, brunettes are true, but you never know just what a redhead will do”- Unknown[/quote]
First birthday parties are for fun, balloons, cake smashes, lots of laughs and loving families. Well……. we got balloons right, loving families and lots of laughs! For the rest, not so much as this little redhead had her own ideas!
She hated the idea of touching her cake, just look at how upset she got when she accidentally stuck her foot in it 🙂 She was my easiest newborn I have ever photographed but this time around she tried to hide from me all the time! (See her newborn pictures Part 1 and newborn pictures Part 2)
Little Nelia had a extra special birthday as she shared it with her “Ouma” whom turned 81! The day was filled with laughter, plenty of fun, cakes smashes that went terrible wrong and a family that loves and adores this little redhead.
[quote] “The jewel of the sky is the sun, the jewel of the house is the child” – Chinese saying [/quote]
It was such a blessing being apart of Bernadette & Charl’s journey to meeting their jewel. I first met up with them at UJ’s sport field for their maternity session. If you missed it, here is the link M&C’s Maternity. As you can remember we had a lot of fun. Our next get together was when this little munchkin was born a few weeks back. Here is the link to that awesome story – The Birth of Olivia . ….. Now for a proper look at Miss Olivia.
At only 8 days old she has her mom and daddy wrapped around those tiny fingers. From what I hear even Ouma and Oupa are all jelly legged when this little one is around. Then again I think that’s exactly the way it is suppose to be.
Enjoy every single moment you spend with your “jewel”
[quote]”Let her sleep for when she wakes she will move mountains” – Unknown [/quote]
Charl & Bernadette welcomed their little bundle on a grey afternoon, which was actually very strange for this time of year. Little Olivia was greeted by a waiting room packed with family that were waiting anxiously to meet her. Their first glimpse of this little princess were on a cell phone, as you will see in some of the images, and that’s just the way it goes in our technology driven world. Her new grandfather actually made a comment about how things have changes since they have had Bernadette and her twin brothers. Never the less the meeting of her new family was as special as I have seen. Ouma were in tears as Oupa was the very first one to hold her, after mom and dad.
Guys as you mentioned, let her sleep, this little one will have no problem moving those mountains with this family’s love, surrounding her, cherishing her and teaching her.
[quote]”Be happy for no reason, like a child. If you are happy for a reason , You’re in trouble, because that reason can be taken from you.” – Unknown[/quote]
This picture reminds me of someone ones telling me, “Be happy for no reason, like a child. If you are happy for a reason , You’re in trouble, because that reason can be taken from you.”
Made me wonder what my happiness are based on and I realised I need to work harder not to base my happiness on the people around me, my family, my kids, my work, my hubby, my surroundings, my home, what I have achieved or not achieved for the day, Oh and so many more … in order to be truly happy I need to be thankful and grateful. I need to see each thing in my life as they are, a blessing, a special gift God has chosen for me!
Like this gift with all the joy and happiness of the world in her eyes ….